两条生活的真理 Two Truths to Live By

两条生活的真理

Two Truths to Live By

抓紧，放松：明白了这对矛盾，你就踏进了智慧的大门

Hold fast, and let go: understand this paradox, and you stand at the very gate of wisdom

亚力山大•M•欣德勒

Alexander M. Schindler

生活的秘诀在于懂得何时抓紧，何时放松。因为人生就是一对矛盾：它既令我们抓紧人生的多种赐与，同时它又要我们到头来把这些赐与放弃。老一辈犹太学者是这样说的： “ 一个人握紧拳头来到这个世界，但他却是松开手掌离开这世界的。 ”

The art of living is to know when to hold fast and when to let go. For life is a paradox: it enjoins us to cling to its many gifts even while it ordains their eventual relinquishment. The rabbis of old put it this way: "A man comes to this world with his fist clenched, but when he dies, his hand is open."

毫无疑问，我们应该牢牢抓住生命，因为它奇妙，它有一种在上帝创造的世界里无孔不入、无处不在的美。我们大家都知道这一点。可我们却常常是在回首往事想起它时，才能认识这一真理。此时我们会突然发觉它已不复存在了。

Surely we ought to hold fast to life, for it is wondrous, and full of a beauty that breaks through every pore of God's own earth. We know that this is so, but all too often we recognize this truth only in our backward glance when we remember what it was and then suddenly realize that it is no more.

我们能记起已经凋谢的美、已经消逝的爱。可是，我们更痛苦的回忆是：我们没有看见顶峰时的美，没有在别人以爱对我之时也以爱回报。

We remember a beauty that faded, a love that waned. But we remember with far greater pain that we did not see that beauty when it flowered, that we failed to respond with love when it was tendered.

最近一次经历又使我领悟到了这个真理。一场剧烈的心脏病发作后，我被送进医院，接受了几天精心护理。医院可不是一个使人愉快的地方。

A recent experience re-taught me this truth. I was hospitalized following a severe heart attack and had been in intensive care for several days. It was not a pleasant place.

一天上午，我得加做几项检查。我要用的医疗器械安装在医院另一端的大楼里。所以我只有坐轮椅穿过院子才能到达那里。

One morning, I had to have some additional tests. The required machines were located in a building at the opposite end of the hospital, so I had to be wheeled across the courtyard on a gurney.

当我们走出病房时，阳光正照在我身上。就我实际的经历而言，当时也没有什么别的。只不过就是阳光。而这时的阳光是多么美丽、多么温暖、多么耀眼、多么辉煌 !

As we emerged from our unit, the sunlight hit me. That's all there was to my experience. Just the light of the sun. And yet how beautiful it was--how warming, how sparkling, how brilliant!

我打量着别人是否也在欣赏着这太阳的金色光芒。可是，人人都来去匆匆，大多数人的目光只盯在地上。这时我想到自己过去又何尝不是往往对每天的壮观景象视而不见，一头埋在细小的，有时甚至是卑鄙、自私的事务中，而对日常的奇观麻木不仁呢 ?

I looked to see whether anyone else relished the sun's golden glow, but everyone was hurrying to and fro, most with eyes fixed on the ground. Then I remembered how often I, too, had been indifferent to the grandeur of each day, too preoccupied with petty and sometimes even mean concerns to respond to the splendor of it all.

从这次经历所获得的顿悟确如经历本身一样的平凡。生命的赐予是宝贵的，可惜我们对它们太掉以轻心了。

The insight gleaned from that experience is really as commonplace as was the experience itself: life's gifts are precious ----but we are too heedless of them.

这就是人生向我们提出的矛盾要求的第一个方面：不要因为太忙就忽视了生活中令人惊奇、令人敬畏的东西。每天黎明开始就要恭谨从事。抓紧每个小时，捉住宝贵的每一分钟。

Here then is the first pole of life's paradoxical demands on us: Never too busy for the wonder and the awe of life. Be reverent before each dawning day. Embrace each hour. Seize each golden minute.

紧紧抓住生活——可不要紧得使你不能松手。这就是生活的另一面——矛盾的另一方：我们必须接受损失，学会放松。

Hold fast to life ... but not so fast that you cannot let go. This is the second side of life's coin, the opposite pole of its paradox: we must accept our losses, and learn how to let go.

这并不是容易学到手的一课。特别是当我们年轻时，认为世界是由我们掌握的。只要我们自己满腔热情、全力以赴地去渴求，不管什么东西都能够——不，一定会——得到。但是，随着生活继续前进，我们不断地面临各种现实，慢慢地但也是肯定地使我们明白了第二条真理。

This is not an easy lesson to learn, especially when we are young and think that the world is ours to command, that whatever we desire with the full force of our passionate being can, nay, will, be ours. But then life moves along to confront us with realities, and slowly but surely this second truth dawns upon us.

在生命的每个阶段上，我们都要蒙受损失——但也是在这个过程中得到成长。我们只有在脱离娘胎、失去它的庇护时，才能开始独立生活。我们要进各级学校，继而告别父母，告别童年的家。我们要结婚生育，继而送走子女。我们要经受父母、配偶丧亡的痛苦。我们要面临体力或快或慢的逐渐消退。最终正如松手与握拳的比喻那样：我们自己也得走向不可抗拒的死亡，可以说失去原有的自身，失去我们拥有的或梦想过的一切。

At every stage of life we sustain losses -- and grow in the process. We begin our independent lives only when we emerge from the womb and lose its protective shelter. We enter a progression of schools, then we leave our mothers and fathers and our childhood homes. We get married and have children and then have to let them go. We confront the death of our parents and our spouses. We face the gradual or not so gradual waning of our own strength. And ultimately, as the parable of the open and closed hand suggests, we must confront the inevitability of our own demise, losing ourselves, as it were, all that we were or dreamed to be.

但是，为什么我们甘愿顺从于这些生活的矛盾需求呢 ? 既然美转眼就会消逝，那为什么我们还要去创造那些美的东西呢 ? 既然我们所爱的终归要被夺走，为什么我们还要倾心相爱呢 ?

But why should we be reconciled to life's contradictory demands? Why fashion things of beauty when beauty is evanescent? Why give our heart in love when those we love will ultimately be torn from our grasp?

为了要解决这个矛盾，我们必须寻找一个较为广阔的视角，透过通向永恒的窗口来观看我们的生命。做到了这一点，我们会发觉，虽然我们的生命是有限的，但是我们在地球上的行为却在编织着一个没有时间限制的图案。

In order to resolve this paradox, we must seek a wider perspective, viewing our lives as through windows that open on eternity. Once we do that, we realize that though our lives are finite, our deeds on earth weave a timeless pattern.

生命绝不只是存在。它是变动不止的，无情地流逝不息的。父母的生命在我们身上延续，而我们的生命又将在我们的子女身上延续。我们建立的习俗制度会持续下去，而我们的生命就活在其中。我们创造的美好的东西不会因为我们的死亡而暗淡无光。我们的肉体会消亡，我们的双手也会枯萎，但它们在真善美中所创造的一切将在日后长存 !

Life is never just being. It is a becoming, a relentless flowing on. Our parents live on through us, and we will live on through our children. The institutions we build endure, and we will endure through them. The beauty we fashion cannot be dimmed by death. Our flesh may perish, our hands will wither, but that which they create in beauty and goodness and truth lives on for all time to come.

不要为了积聚那些只会变成尘土、化作灰烬的东西耗尽你的精力、你的生命。与其追求物质不如追求理想，因为只有理想才能使生命有意义，才有长存的价值。

Don't spend and waste your lives accumulating objects that will only turn to dust and ashes. Pursue not so much the material as the ideal, for ideals alone invest life with meaning and are of enduring worth.

一所房屋加上爱心，你就有了一个家；一个城市加上正直守法，你就有了一个社区；在一堆红砖上加上真理，你就有了一所学校；哪怕是最卑微简陋的建筑，只要有宗教，你就有了一所圣殿；把公正加在长期的人生努力奋斗中，你就有了文明教养。把这一切聚合起来，加以提高，使之超越于现存的缺点，还要有人类得到拯救的憧憬，永远无求无争，那么你将会有一个闪耀着希望的绚丽光彩的未来。

Add love to a house and you have a home. Add righteousness to a city and you have a community. Add truth to a pile of red brick and you have a school. Add religion to the humblest of edifices and you have a sanctuary. Add justice to the far-flung round of human endeavor and you have civilization. Put them all together, exalt them above their present imperfections, add to them the vision of humankind redeemed, forever free of need and strife and you have a future lighted with the radiant colors of hope.

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