Misunderstanding
1in daily life,. We can see that people claim that there are Misunderstanding problem in communication
2sometimes, Misunderstanding seems to be one of the most disturbing issues in interpersonal relationships.
3well，We often see how it undermines 渐渐破坏the harmonious relationships between people.
4it is common, we can find a misunderstanding always makes us have a strange experience.But the fact is that we can’t make everything well understood.
5for example, there is a lack of understanding between parents and children. Think about an incident of misunderstanding between you and your parents
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1例子absolutely，While parents can not approve of what their children want to say and do,
2One time when I was in junior school, I gave my mother the examination paper which I got a good mark, expecting to hear the praise from her. However, she saw it carefully and then fixed her eyes on the mistakes I made. She pointed at the mistakes and said, "Look at this question; it reflects how careless you are." You can't imagine how depressed I was. Tears filled my eyes; I yelled at my mother, no matter how well I do, you just find the weakness. I can't stand it." I run out of the room, leaving her alone with astonished. After that day, my mother had a long talk with me. She said, "I'm delighted to see what you have achieved. But I just hope that you can do better." Hearing her words, I held my mother tightly.
3 评价From this misunderstanding, you come to realize your mother's deep love for me. She chooses to point out my weakness, sometimes even hurt me. It is not because she doesn't love me, but give me the courage to do better
4例子The act of smiling seems to be a universal body language, but sometimes misunderstanding or conflict occurs in intercultural communication just because people from different cultural backgrounds treat a smile in different ways.
5评价 In American society，American people often smile to strangers to be polite. This is especially true when the space is narrow and the number of people around is small.
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1评价when one person gets on an elevator with one other person already in the elevator or when two strangers walk by each other in an empty hall, they are likely to exchange a brief smile. A smile to a stranger merely acknowledges the presence of the other.
2评价 In Chinese society，Chinese people seldom smile to strangers. A person, no matter if he is walking down a crowded street or
sharing a table with another person in the dining hall, will normally pretend that the other person is not present.
3Treating the other as a non-person by a Chinese is usually regarded as a rude。A smile from a stranger means a lot of things but friendliness.
4评价this contrastive analysis is helpful to provide a basic guideline to have a better understanding of the smiling behavior in the other culture and to avoid unnecessary conflicts resulting from different perceptions of the act of smiling
5 From this misunderstanding, I come to realize---------------- Here, the “avoid” means “reduce misunderstanding to the utmost 极大extent”.
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1So we need to take some measures to avoid misunderstanding. Several factors must contribute to misunderstanding.
2Firstly, before we want to do something, we should think it twice about such things: How do the others think about it? If it cause a misunderstanding, am I sure I can get it right in later days?”
3 yes, just compare the pluses and minuses, and pick out a better choice.
4Secondly, pay much attention to your words and activities. As we had experienced, a careless word or a random behavior may cause a terrible influence.
5 So we should take note of our daily words and behaviors, don’t speak rudely, do things impertinencely, we need to behave like a gentleman.---------------------------------------------------------------------------
1next, maybe though you are so careful, the reality is that the misunderstanding is born and growing. Oh, don’t be despaired, the things are not worse than you think that. You still have enough time to translate your real thoughts to others.
2 also ,Don’t just say they are misunderstood you. You can say: “Friends, please listen to me once more. (then give your reasons)”
3At last, you can add: “Please keep calm and wait to see the result which can fully show my heart.” If you say those words honestly, I think they will deeply know you.
4On the one hand, we must try our best to avoid misunderstanding, but on the other hand, we needn’t take it too seriously, just take much care of it.
5If you had tried, but the misunderstanding happened finally, just let it go!
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