It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive. It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring3 your moon... I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow4, if you have been opened by life’s betrayals5 or have become helpless and closed from fear of further pain. It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself, if you can bear6 the accusation7 of betrayal and not betray your own soul, if you can be faithful and therefore trustworthy8. It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief 9 and despair, weary10 and bruised11 to the bone， and do what needs to be done to feed the children. It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains12 you from the inside when all else falls away13. I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company14 you keep in the empty moments. It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back15. I want to know if you can pain16 my pain without moving to hide it. I want to know if you can joy my joy，if you can dance with wildness17 and let the joy fill you to the tips18 of your fingers and toes without warning us to be careful, be realistic and remember the limitations19 of being human. I want to know if you can see Beauty. And if you can source20 your own life from its presence. I want to know if you can live with21 failure of yours and mine and still stand at the edge of22 the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon “Yes.” 你以什么为生我不感爱好。我想明白的是你因什么而痛楚，想明白你是否敢于去妄图满足心灵的期望。 你的年龄我不感爱好。我想明白的是你是否甘当傻瓜去追求爱、追求妄图和经历生活的危险刺激。 是什么磨圆了你的棱角我不感爱好。我想明白的是你是否触碰过自己受伤的心，是否因为生活辜负过你而变得豁达，依旧因为可怕遭受更多的痛楚而变得无助、紧闭心扉。你说的是真是假我不感爱好。我想明白的是你是否为了忠实于自己而敢于令他人败兴，是否敢于承担背叛的骂名而不愿违抗良心，是否能做到诚实可靠从而值得信任。 你栖身何处、有多少金钱我不感爱好。我想明白的是一夜难过和失望、一身疲乏和伤痕之后，你是否照样起床，履行应尽的义务，养育待哺的小孩。 你在哪里受的教育，学的什么我不感爱好。我想明白的是一切消逝之后是什么在内心支撑着你，你是否能够独自面对自己，是否真正喜爱你在空虚的时刻结交的伙伴。 你有何背景、何以成为现在的你我不感爱好。我想明白的是你是否情愿与我一道，站在烈火中央而不退缩。 我想明白你是否能痛楚着我的痛楚而不是躲开它，躲着它。 我想明白你是否能欢乐着我的欢乐，是否能狂舞一曲，让欢乐溢满你的指尖和脚趾，而不是警告我们：要小心翼翼、要现实、要牢记做人的局限。
