Which is true.
That's like finding an extra hour in the day.
But rm sure if you had asked her at the start of the week, "Could you find seve n hours to train for a triathl on?"
And so the key to time man ageme nt is treat ing our priorities as the equivale nt of that broke n water heater. To get at this, I like to use Ian guage from one of the busiest people I ever in terviewed. By busy, I mean she was running a small bus in ess with 12 people on the payroll, she had six childre n in her spare time. I was gett ing in touch with her to set up an in terview on how she "had it all"…that phrase. I remember it was a Thursday morning, and she was not available to speak with me. Of course, right?
But the reas on she was un available to speak with me is that she was out for a hike, because it was a beautiful spri ng morning, and she wan ted to go for a hike. So of course this makes me eve n more in trigued, and whe n I fin ally do catch up with her, she expla ins it like this. She says, "Liste n Laura, everyth ing I do, every mi nute I spe nd, is my choice." And rather tha n say, "I don't have time to do x, y or z, "she'd say, "I don't do x, y or z because it's not a priority." "I don't have time, "ofte n means " It's n ot a priority." If you thi nk about it, that's really more accurate Ian guage.
I could tell you I don't have time to dust to dust my bli nds, but that's not true. If you offered to pay me $100,000 to dust my bli nds, I would get to it pretty quickly. Since that is not going to happe n, I can ack no wledge this is not a matter of lacki ng time, it's that I don't want to do it. Using this Ian guage reminds us that time is a choice. And gra nted, there may be horrible con seque nces for maki ng differe nt choices, I will give you that. But we are smart people, and certai nly over the long run, we have the power to fill our lives with the things that deserve to be there. So how do we do that? How do we treat our priorities as the equivale nt of that broke n water heater?
But you can write it.
And now, betwee n the performa nee review and the family holiday letter, we have a list of six to ten goals we can work on in the next year. And now we n eed to break these dow n in to doable steps. So maybe you want to write a family history. First, you can read some other family histories, get a sense for the style. The n maybe think about the questi ons you want to ask your relatives, set up appo in tme nts to in terview them. Or maybe you want to run a 5K.So you n eed to find a race and sig n up, figure out a training pla n, and dig those shoes out of the back of the closet. And then …this is key...we treat our priorities as the equivale nt of that broke n water heater, by putt ing them into our schedules first.
We do this by thi nking through our weeks before we are in them, I find a really good time to do this is Friday after noons. Friday after noon is what an econo mist might call a "low opport unity cost" time. Most of us are n ot sitti ng there on Friday after noons say ing, "I am excited to make progress toward my pers onal and professi onal priorities right no w." But we are willi ng to think about what those should be. So take a little bit of time Friday after noon, make yourself a three-category priority list: career, relati on ships, self. Making a three-category list reminds us that there should be someth ing in all three categories. Career, we thi nk about; relati on ships, self... not so much.
I mean, some people's lives are just harder tha n others. It is not going to be easy to find time to take that poetry class if you are cari ng for multiple childre n on your own. I get that. And I don't want to mini mize anyon e's struggle. But I do thi nk that the nu mbers I am about to tell you are empoweri ng. There are 168 hours in a week. Twen ty-four times seve n is 168 hours. That is a lot of time. If you are work ing a full-time job, so 40 hours a week, sleep ing eight hours a ni ght, so 56 hours a week...that leaves 72 hours for other thi ngs.
So we have ple nty of time, which is great, because guess what?
We don't eve n n eed that much time to do amaz ing thi ngs. But whe n most of us have bits of time, what do we do? Pull out the pho ne, right? Start delet ing emails. Otherwise, we're putteri ng around the house or watch ing TV. But small mome nts can have great power. You can use your bits of time for bits of joy. Maybe it's choos ing to read somethi ng won derful on the bus on the way to work. I know whe n I had a job
that required two bus rides and a subway ride every mornin g, I used to go to the library on weeke nds to get stuff to read. It made the whole experie nee almost, almost, enjoyable.
Breaks at work can be used for meditati ng or pray in g. If family dinner is out because of your crazy work schedule, maybe family breakfast could be a good substitute. It's about look ing at the whole of on e's time and see ing where the good stuff can go.
I truly believe this, there is time. Eve n if we are busy, we have time for what matters. And whe n we focus on what matters, we can build the lives we want in the time we've got.
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